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终于,在我阅读了一年Newsletter之后,我也开始尝试写Newsletter,我打算坚持两年时间把自己的阅读和知识的转换记录下来,编辑成Newsletter,平均2周一篇,一方面用于自我驱动,另一

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陪儿子冲刺高考

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儿子在一所重点中学上高三,离高考还有一个多月,真的进入了倒计时。

儿子学的是文科,经常要背一些课文,看着他念念有词的样子,说实话我们做家长的心里很是紧张。儿子是一个非常好强的孩子,高中三年,他的成绩在班级中总是遥遥领先,所以他对自己一直比较自信。为了不把紧张情绪传染给孩子,在他背书的时候我们从来都不去打扰他。但儿子还是看出了我们的心思,故作轻松地说:“我都不紧张,你们担心什么?”这下,我和妻子焦躁的心终于平静下来。二人悄悄开了一次家庭会议“决定”:要给儿子创造一个宽松的复习环境,不给他太多的心理负担。我还特别跟妻子强调:“和孩子交代事情,嘱咐可以,但别唠叨起来没完。”

以后我们极少提到“高考”二字,只是在平时注意收集和考试有关的信息和经验。每天上班时,我都会买上几份刊登有高考经验的报纸,然后将其中对儿子有借鉴作用的内容在晚上吃饭的时候讲给他听,讲多少看儿子的情绪。如果儿子情绪好,我会多介绍一点,否则会立即打住。在饮食上我们也没给儿子搞特殊化,我认为自家的伙食一直都不错,每顿饭都有荤有素,每天都有新鲜水果,营养搭配,假如刻意改变反而会给儿子敏感的心加压。

二模考试,儿子发挥得不好,有点闷闷不乐,开始对自己产生一些怀疑。看儿子情绪低落的样子,不用问也知道考试没考好。在临近高考的时候,我觉得儿子的这种自我怀疑很有可能是致命的。我安慰他说:“不要给自己太大压力,高考只是对于你高中学习的一次检验,只要你真正努力了,不管结果怎样,爸妈都不会怪你,你自己也不应该觉得有什么遗憾。”说完就拉着他去吃晚饭,然后聊聊社会上的事,给儿子的坏心情“打了个岔”。后来每次碰到儿子做试卷不顺利的时候,我都告诉儿子,“从来都没有常胜的将军,偶尔的失误并不代表什么,即使最后考砸了也没关系,无论你上什么学校,你都是我们最优秀的儿子!”这样的“语言疗法”对于儿子非常有效,儿子的心态一步步得到了放松。

为使儿子以最好的状态走进考场,我有时吆喝儿子出去打球、散步。儿子上完晚自习回家后,也不像以前那样还花一个小时的时间拼命复习了,而是打开电脑听着歌、看着动漫,悠然自在。这哪像要高考了,分明是在休闲。但我们从不阻止他,因为我们知道,儿子从早晨六点就到校学习,一直到晚上九点半,去掉吃饭时间,一天要学习十几个小时呢。每天经过高强度的学习,回家后如果还硬逼着他再复习到深更半夜,如是睡眠不足,势必影响第二天的学习,这就得不偿失了。

再过几天儿子就要走进高考战场了,我想对儿子说,爸爸相信你早就准备好了,高考并不可怕,它只是人生所要经历的一次考试而已。与高考本身相比,更重要的是这场经历,经过即是获得。给自己一份挑战,树立一份信心,准备迎接即将到来的全新生活。

陪儿子应战高考,我们紧张并快乐着。

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